Something on Love*02.2025

  • Chances are, if a man you’re dating/seeing isn’t mutually cultivating the garden of life with you and bringing it to fruition, he’s more of a liability than an asset. He’s already taking away the most valuable thing in your life, which is your time, attention, and energy, and enjoying your fruits. In the worst-case scenario, he’s emotionally distracting you from growing with his dramas. And the same applies to men. Stay focused.
  • If a man can chat with you at 4am, he is either that obsessed with you or he doesn’t have a job. (Most of the time it’s the latter.)
  • Stop being frustrated or complaining; instead, keep reaffirming what you really desire in the other person and tell that to the divine.
  • Love without sacrifices is just lust.
  • If you want the rose, you need to bear the risk of getting pricked by the thorns. Which rose is worth taming?
  • In 2024, I made a promise: whenever I get emotional or confused about a situation involving relationships, I would turn to learning about investment, finance, the economy, or geopolitics. After a while, don’t get me wrong, I still experience emotions. However, my perspective shifts, perhaps due to age or experience. Things become clearer, and the intensity of emotional upsets diminishes. And you’ll find yourself thrilled and excited by the new knowledge and the endless possibilities it opens up. It’s a powerful reminder that growth and learning can be the best antidotes to emotional confusion, leading to a richer, more fulfilling life.

To be continued…

Twenty years in America

Twenty Years in America

Next month marks two decades since I arrived in the U.S. Witnessing the transformation of America, especially New York, has been remarkable. But the most profound change has been within myself. Assimilation has chipped away at some parts of who I was, yet unearthed unexpected facets I never knew existed. I hope this process of self-discovery continues, to keep finding new pieces of me in the years to come.

Lately, however, a gnawing sense of burnout has settled in. Emptiness lingers, and the search for lasting happiness feels elusive. It’s like filling an empty stomach – it solves one problem, but countless others remain.

Is this a mid-life crisis? Seeking answers, I reached out to friends and teachers. Their responses, filled with empathy, echoed a familiar refrain: “Overthinking, uncertainty, helplessness – that sounds about right.” “But what next? How do we cope?”

Their heartfelt advice hasn’t yet revealed the escape route from this abyss. It seems trial and error is the only path. Perhaps there’s solace in putting pen to paper, solidifying the swirling thoughts within. Each one externalized is a weight lifted from my mind.

To you, dear readers,

While I may not have solutions, I offer solace: you are not alone. These feelings are normal, human. And remember, this too shall pass. 

If I could, I’d hold your heart when it aches. Perhaps, someday, we can hold each other’s hearts, a beacon of shared experience in this journey of life.

(#Resonate)

12.14.2013

有时就很想问自己
什么是对
什么是错
究竟现在自己在做什么
很想每样事情都有一个清清楚楚地答案
但世界每样事情都可能有一个答案  不是一个唯一的答案 
你有权选择去相信 你有权去选择怀疑
但就发觉相信与否却是看自己都这事紧张的程度
或者自己太紧张这一切
得与失
看得太重 
害怕失去现在拥有的
害怕改变 
害怕被骗
是否年纪大了都这样
害怕一切都要重新开始
害怕这个 
害怕那个
一切一切
看到的只有恐惧
自己变得寸步难行
自己变了杞人忧天的又一受害者

黑与白 
人生或者是在中间 有点灰 有点不清楚 但有时放手放下恐惧 再抓紧去相信自己 相信你所相信的会带你去你想去的地方

So refreshing to see how my younger self had such deep insight. Over the years, not sure what or how, got myself so numb or blind. Maybe interruptions of life are good. When a crack takes place, light can come in again and let me see the things I cannot see anymore.

Be happy be free,

Tiffanie 11.07.2020  

06.27.2013 Random thoughts Chn

2013-6-27 09:39:47

 久违的中文字 久违的博客

好久都没有用文字去记载自己的思想

有时我想为什么就不写在自己的日记本子内 然后我发觉原来对电脑打字上了瘾

喜欢手指在键盘上敲打的声音 喜欢在打错字时可以用回车键然后将错的字不留痕迹的改去

喜欢将那曾有的疯狂想法彻底否决 然后删除 再忘记

我在想我写在本子上和博客上又会有什么不同

日记对于我来说是很私人的东西

所有不安 情感的烦恼 怨恨 我都会记上去

我觉得日记是我的一个很大的足球场 在那我 可以很自由地奔跑 可以做自己想做的 无局无促

但见到现在很多人在博客或其他地方都可以表达出自己最深层的感受时候

我才发觉我自己是个很内捻的人

又或者我不想连那最后的自由 自己的感情坦荡荡 都被将事物过分曝光的网络扼杀了

但到最后 他人的日记又有几成是真 几成是假的?

真真假假 假假真真

对外人 有时不太重要 但对自己 记得要在本子上的和你网上打的要一样 和你心里的一样

对自己坦诚才是最重要

自己都不能面对真实自己的人 在他人面前还会有多真?

网络的世界 繁忙的生活 人吃人的社会

做自己的却很艰难

不过不要放弃

你不一定会多人喜欢 但你是人 不是神

即使你是神也会有恨你的人

神不是完美 我也不是完美

那就是世界 一个不完美的世界 有着你我的存在 有着一个所谓自己有改变世界的能力的心态

活着自我  就是一种奇迹 就是精彩

最近 我和我姐说 我很累

她问我是什么令我变得那么沮丧和悲观

我回答人生就很累 你有很多东西想做 但每件事 每件大事 结婚生子 买车买楼

甚至死亡丧礼 都要慢慢的 一步一步 时间去成就 都要有准备

当我们付出了很多 回报却迟迟未来的时候 真的很累 累到想放弃 一走了之

但走去哪里 哪里才不用付出努力 就可以即刻收取回报

等待 两个字的长度 却是可以使那么漫长 无止境

姐说我想太多 我想也是 所以我买了瓶红酒 自己喝

一醉 不可以解千愁 但可以短暂让我睡一觉 头脑清醒了一下

我刚刚说要喝酒去清醒脑袋 我笑了

其实红酒不错啊 帮助血液循环 抗氧化

第二天日觉得肚子都空了 朋友还说可以减肥

小赌怡情 或者 小醉令世界瞬间更美妙

我也终于明白为何古时的诗人大文豪都要有酒相伴

或者他们的感情实在太丰富 对事事都有多多感概

只可用酒释怀 舒畅舒畅

暂时有个忘我的境界

There are thoughts best be expressed in Chinese.

Be happy be free,

Tiffanie

11.07.2020